I believe it was John Lennon who when asked what he wanted to be when he grew up responded with ‘happy’.
That’s what we all need isn’t it? Happiness. We need joy in our lives. I believe there is a very simple formula to make happiness a reality. First of all you need to get rid of everything and everyone in your life who is toxic. Wash your soul clean and breathe in the fresh new air around you. It’s amazing how good you’ll feel when you don’t have to deal with all the negativity and the self-deprecation. You can think straight and you can start to focus on the things that actually matter in life, you can see the world in technicolor. There is no point in living through pain and arguments, all it does is cause trouble and take you further away from the place of bliss where you need to be. You need to put yourself first and do a few simple things that will change your life.
Find something you love doing and start doing it more! There is so much joy to be found in the little things in life, simple little tasks which make you feel relaxed and make you smile. Draw a picture, write a blog, study a language, there is an amazing world out there that you need to explore. People don’t realise how important it is to actually take time to yourself, it really can make all the difference. You are important and making yourself happy is just as important as food. For me it’s the theatre! I love performing more than anything in the world, more than life itself and the picture at the top is my favourite cast I’ve ever worked with. They are people who have given in to their love of musical theatre and found happiness where it really matters, I’m in this one too…the way too enthusiastic little blonde girl on the left – not that I’m blonde anymore.
Realise that not all dreams are impossible. A lot of negativity and disappointment stems from the thought that you’re never going to achieve your dreams, as soon as you put yourself in that mindset you are obviously going to lose a lot of self worth. No matter what your dream is you should always find a way of making your way towards it. Want to be an actor? Get yourself down to an amateur dramatics group and start playing. Want to be a writer? Get yourself online and set up your own blog. Want to be a film-maker? Buy a camera and start putting stuff up on YouTube. There are endless ways to follow your dreams, there is always the possibility then that you might make it, sometimes in a different – and better – way than you first thought.
Go on long walks. Fresh country air is a blessing sent from God. A walk on the beach, or through a wood, or even just a walk downtown can make you feel alive. Sit in a forest and listen to the birds and the wind, watch as the life all around you explodes in a flurry of bright colours and magic. If you live in a city then go somewhere you’ve never been before, sit down and watch the people pass you by. Find yourself imagining what they’re doing with their lives, who they really are and whether that suit is all that important. Let yourself be free and escape the oddities of real life for just a little while. Breathe.
Be comfortable in your own skin. If you realise that you are perfect just the way you are and remember that beauty is not just what society believes in then you’ll find yourself smiling again. Embraces all you insecurities and ‘imperfections’ they make you who you are and if you ever try to change for everyone around you then you’ll be miserable and forever chasing shadows. You should never try to apologise for being who you are, I learned this a while ago but over time I forgot, but now I can start over and can finally be myself everywhere I go.
Happiness can be found in the most unexpected places, and as soon as you stop searching for it you’ll find it in an instant. If you spend your life trying to find things that make you happy instead of just embracing it then you’ll never truly find it. And anyone who says they have found it are probably lying to you. It’s not something to declare to the world, it’s a feeling deep within yourself that you don’t need to share, you just need to experience. Once you find it I want you to make a promise to yourself that you’re never going to lose it again. I want you to ensure that nobody ever takes it away from you. I want you to keep yourself safe.
Happiness is a human need. It is something that we crave. It is something we deserve. If anyone tries to rip it from you then you have to turn around and walk away. They’re not good for you, find people who care and never let them go.